Loving Courageously

6 Jun

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This post is part of the June Synchroblog: Ordinary Courage, where bloggers are invited to write about ordinary courage. The other contributors for this month are listed at the end of this post.

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ―Lao Tzu

What is courage? What does it mean to be courageous as a person of faith? The dictionary definition speaks to having the mental or moral strength to preserver and overcome difficulty, danger, or pain. Using this definition, I don’t think I know a single person who hasn’t been courageous at one time or another. Yet, if asked, I believe most of us would hesitate to call ourselves courageous. Why is this?

Perhaps we accept that we are called to be courageous when it affects us or someone we know in the physical sense, but we sell ourselves short in our moral courage; times when we “do the right thing” even if it is unpopular, shameful, or scandalous. C.S. Lewis defined integrity as “doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.” The philosophers among us may question, “If no one is watching, does a ‘thing’ happen?”

Why does loving someone deeply give us courage? Because loving someone deeply requires that we are vulnerable. Everyone has been hurt – emotionally, physically, spiritually. To return to love, to open one’s self to another, to the possibility of more hurt, is a huge risk. Yet, if we do not do so, if we are not courageous, the “hurt” wins. The one(s) who hurt us in the past win. More importantly, when we forfeit the chance to love and be loved once more, we lose, and so do those who do not get to feel and return our love.

Our ability to love and share love with others in one of the greatest gifts we are given. Love is so unusual; the more you give away, the more you receive back. But the church for the most part does not value all love equally. The only virtuous love that many churches hold up is that of familial love, particularly that between a man and a woman in marriage. Where does that leave our single brothers and sisters? Where does that leave those who have lost a spouse? Where does that leave the love between those who are not related by blood or marriage; that of friends?

Courage is loving others even when we do not feel lovable in return. Courage is loving those that others have deemed unlovable. Courage is loving those who have hurt us, when doing so is healthy for us and does not enable further hurt.

Courage, particularly for many introverts, is saying that first hello. Courage is facing rejection with the knowledge that until we trust in the holy when we reveal part of our self, we are destined for only superficial friendships. Say that first hello. Love your brothers and sisters, familial and not, with abandon. Be courageous. There is nothing ordinary about it. Be extraordinary.

Please read the other posts on this topic:

This Is Courage by Jen Bradbury

Being Vulnerable by Phil Lancaster

Everyday Bravery: Overcoming the Fear of Being Wrong by Jessica

Moving Forward Takes Courage by Paul W. Meier

How to Become a Flasher by Glenn Hager

Ordinary Courage by Elaine Hansen

Courage, Hope, Generosity by Carol Kuniholm

The Courage to Fail by Wendy McCaig

The Greatest Act of Courage by Jeremy Myers

Sharing One’s Heart by K. W. Leslie

All I See Is Rocks by Tim Nichols

I Wonder What Would Happen by Liz Dyer

What is Ordinary Courage? by Jennifer Stahl

Heart Cry: The Courage to Confess by Elizabeth Chapin

The Act to the Miraculous by VisionHub

the spiritual practice of showing up & telling the truth by Kathy Escobar

20 Responses to “Loving Courageously”

  1. Jeremy Myers June 19, 2013 at 3:20 pm #

    Wonderful post. Sometimes I get so caught up in what I am doing, I fail to see the acts of ordinary courage that I am missing all around me – to tell people I love them, to help meet a need, etc. Thanks for the reminder.

    • damannwrite June 19, 2013 at 4:34 pm #

      Glad you got something out of it, Jeremy.

  2. Carol Kuniholm June 12, 2013 at 9:47 pm #

    I had not seen that Lao Tze quote – thanks for sharing it.
    And I love your closing challenge: You’re right, there’s nothing ordinary about the kind of love that reaches out in courageous, generous ways: “Be extraordinary!”
    Thanks for that challenge!

    • damannwrite June 12, 2013 at 11:19 pm #

      Thanks Carol. I would love to hear back from you on how the challenge goes for you.

  3. wmccaig June 12, 2013 at 9:28 pm #

    Great post! I really love the quote. It is something I will be meditating on for a while.

    • damannwrite June 12, 2013 at 11:21 pm #

      The quote is so powerful for such few words. I hope your meditation on it brings you to wonderful new places.

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